How I work! 

This work is meant to serve you not only just now...but hopefully for the rest of your life! 

In terms of coaching, here's a quick two- cent tour of how I work:

First, if we decide to begin working together -  I always begin with a 90-minute initial session which allows me the opportunity to get a really good landscape of what you want to work on, your patterns, and places we need to focus on based on those things. I LOVE this session and it's incredible what we'll unpack in such a short time.  The session flies by!

After that, we dive in with (5 to 10 depending on the person) follow-up sessions which are 60 minutes each. This is where we make things more and more specific based on the awareness we gain in each session. Some people end up needing more, but this is a good baseline to begin with. 

Think about a session or two per decade of your life.  We don't work chronologically, but I guarantee that we'll be shifting back and forth between your childhood stuff, your current stuff, and your future stuff a bit in each session. You will not believe how much your childhood is present in your current reality and the loops we're repeating. 

Right now I'm only taking clients who can commit to a weekly or bi-montly time slot due to the nature of my schedule.  I do not offer single session options for first time clients barring a two hour "deep dive" option.  I ask that new clients are able to commit to the initial session and at least (5) follow-ups for two reasons:  first, it's too much for me to tackle a lifetime of someone's patterns in two sessions. Second, this is just as much an education in self-awareness as it is a practically applicable experience.  I want you to understand how this works and how to responsibly use it for the rest of your life.  That takes a little time, consistency and commitment. 

In terms of prepping for initial session 

*Please take comfort in the fact that everything we discuss is strictly confidential.* 

First, if you could fill out this google form to help direct me a bit, it would be wonderful.  Don't overthink and forget about complete sentences. 

While at the session clients often like to bring a notebook to jot down some thoughts and others like to record sessions on their phones if in person, or recorded on zoom if not (about half of my practice is remote and via zoom.) 

Other than that, there is nothing you really need to do to prepare other than read through the material in this email and come with any specific topics, issues, or goals you might want to begin with. You can't do this wrong. All you have to really do is just show up!!   We will zig and zag all over the place so don't worry about feeling like you're rambling. I LOVE A MESS!!! What you might think is nonsensical babbling is my map TO YOU. Just be yourself.  I can meet you literally anywhere. 

**Note that there are two parts to our process: 

1) building awareness about you 

2) applying action to the awareness we've built 

This means that there might not be specific actions to take at first barring your "homework" (which I typically send to you after our initial). We want to be sure that the actions we apply are based in your authenticity - and it will take a few sessions to better excavate what that means for you. 

A little about my style: 

Life coaching is the kind of safe label I hide behind. In other words, it's not really what I do. My job is to help you come home to YOU.  It's not a step-by-step process.  It's more of a discovery where we look at the difference between who you really are and "who you play on t.v." The objective is to help you understand yourself better so that you're not as affected by external factors and triggers - in fact, we help you to USE these things to help us understand who you are.  These discoveries help you to build internal self-trust, which is the foundation of any good relationship. This foundation is also absolutely essential if and when you're navigating a life transition or are making a big (or small) decision. 

We'll use words like "ego" and "inner child" as well as "healing." Tuning into your emotions is a HUGE part of this process and we use them as a tool to understand where your authentic self ends and your ego self begins. I always say that when we begin this process together - I work for three people, not just one. I work for the 6-year-old version of you, who you are at this moment, and who you're becoming.  I love what I do and I'm honored to be with you as you discover and rediscover parts of yourself. 

The relationship you have with yourself influences every single relationship you have in your life. It's the most important relationship you will ever have.  My hope is that our time together will not only benefit you and your health - but also your family, your friends, your spouse or partner, your co-workers, your career, your business, and any and all projects you are a part of. In other words: this work will show up in every area of your life.  

My style is non-conventional. I use lots of analogies to help you understand the process. I curse.  I'm intuitive and I'm able to see your patterns very quickly.  I've been like this since I was 5 and I can't turn it off! It's my "special gift."  I will be able to begin connecting dots almost immediately. I am also deep into this work personally and have people that help me understand myself better.  I'm in it with you, and I will never give you directions to places I haven't been. 

This can be hard at times.  Sometimes not so fun feelings will come up during this process and there will definitely be things that will present that aren't fun to look at. There will also be patterns that we'll need to challenge and work to redirect. That's ok.  What I know for sure is that you simply cannot heal what you're not willing to feel and in order to change we need to be willing to be uncomfortable. Also, we're a big mix of light AND dark.  It's ok to be both.  As a result of this: YOU WILL BE SENSITIVE DURING THIS PROCESS.  Alcohol and other drugs can heighten this sensitivity...so please take that into consideration as we navigate what makes you, You.  

The main objective is to take 100% responsibility for your life. My job is not to tell you what you want to hear...it's to help show you what you need to see. 

This is where ALL of your power is.

As far as beginning this process - in complete transparency some people are ready and some aren't. Either way, it's completely ok. Not being "ready" just yet does not mean that you won't ever be or that something is wrong. Coaching is also an investment. You will definitely get out of it what you put into it, so your "readiness" is an important factor to consider. This work is for people who are looking to go deeper into what makes them.